The Seven Qualities of Indispensability
For me, the one quality that gets anyone hired, liked, nurtured, feted and even championed is indispensability. You can make a persuasive case for your hire if you cultivate this …
What I Tell Myself To Get Writing
You can do this. Get the pen and paper out. Or keyboard and screen. Or thumbs on the screen. Whatever works. All work. I can do it anywhere, anytime. Just …
Upfront and personal
‘How is it you dare to be so upfront and personal on your blog?’ A friend of mine asked me the other day. ‘Really? I’m just relating what I learned …
The Soul of a Litigator
Litigation is a drag these days. For the most part. A primary reason for that is regrettably my colleagues at the bar. Not all of them, of course. There are …
Interviewing New Clients for Facts
When meeting a client for the first time, I tell my younger colleagues they need to be mindful that a new client almost always tells us only the favourable aspects …
Getting a Witness to Trial
My father’s firm once had a litigious client. She was in her late thirties or early forties when I was first acquainted with her. I was a few years into …
The Awful Need to Feel Productive
My own behaviour baffles me. For I find myself not doing what I really want to do but doing what I really loathe. Yet sure if I do things that …
In Avoiding Small Talk
There was a period in my life when I equated small talk with tedium. I don’t think I had a problem with it prior to that or found it so …
Selective Amnesia and the Imposter Syndrome
My father once recited Rudyard Kipling’s If to me. I loved it and resonated with every line in that poem. But some of those lines I hold fast to. One …
When I feel down, miserable and beaten
it is usually a sign that I have not got enough sleep or lost my sense of gratitude, often both. The former often leads to the latter. It happens when …
Glamourizing Legal Practice
I see a lot of this on social media these days. Daily, we are treated to a surfeit of self-generated pictures, Tik-Tok Videos, Facebook Posts, Twitter Tweets, Instagram LinkedIn Posts …
A Divorce Lawyer’s Suggestions on Sustaining a Relationship
As a practitioner of family law who oversees, manages and bears witness to the breakdown and failure of spousal and family relationships, as someone who has been through a divorce …
The Delight of Discovery
During the formative years of LoyarBurok (‘the LB’), I tasked myself with the responsibility of discovering interesting local and foreign amateur legal blogs. The purpose was two-fold. The first was …
Halal Money and Rezeki
I have been going for regular tennis coaching for almost a year now. My tennis coach is Iranian, Coach Saeed. I call him Coach. He was formerly a national youth …