Amateur Psychology

Overrating Intelligence

Intelligence is the intellectual ability to acquire and apply knowledge and skills systematically, coherently and logically. Once upon a time, intelligence was the primary quality I judged myself and others by. Even though I lacked it, and perhaps because of that, I prized it above other qualities. In an attempt to cultivate it, I kept an open mind, read difficult books (I still don’t understand them), entertained a diversity of thoughts, listened to intelligent people, …

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Standing Out

A drip of bright yellow on a dark blue canvas. An irresistable turn of the head. Contrast. Everybody’s vibing cynical and pessimistic. You turn up honest and hopeful. That’s a lit candle in the dark. Even the darkness can feel its warmth. Contrast. So many talk spin, stretch, bend, hedge, twist, clever, and sale. They can’t tell it straight and true. You do. Others resonate. Contrast. Everyone’s doing what everybody else’s doing. Like call speeches. …

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We all struggle

It doesn’t matter who we are, what we have, how knowledgeable we are, or where we live; we struggle. The man with incredible wealth, the man garlanded with success, struggles. He has no time for family or friendships. He works all the time. So he’s lonely. Do people like him for him or his money? Who can he trust? Nobody understands him except those who seek to take advantage of him. The woman with the …

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